Holistic Sexual Coaching
1:1 sessions for more pleasure and empowerment, an ability to know what you like and need during sex (and name it too!), and sexual healing — so that you can have a gorgeous, life-affirming relationship with sex, and draw in a safe and sexy partner too
Do you know, somewhere deep inside, that there just has to be more to sex? More sensation, more excitement, more intimacy?
Do you long to just flow during sex, to be fully with the sensations, rather than getting held back by thoughts or fears?
Are you tired of settling for sex that you just don’t really love, and ready for sex that meets you emotionally, energetically, physically and spiritually?
There’s so many ways that sex can fall short. We may not even know what holy grail we’re looking for. But we know we want to feel lit up, excited, and turned on. After all, your healthy expression of sexuality is unique to you.
Perhaps you can’t stop focusing on how you look during sex, and feel you’re performing rather than losing yourself in the moment.
And if you are a mother, I see you. I’m a mama too, and it’s completely changed my relationship to sex.
If you see yourself in any of the above, I’m here for you. I love supporting women in coming into a strong, soft relationship with themselves, one where both boundaries and desires are easier to feel, name, and create.
I may be for you if:
you struggle with knowing/expressing your own needs and desires
you experience shame around your sexuality
you aren’t sure if you’ve experienced sexual trauma but something is holding you back in sexual experiences with yourself or others
you’ve definitely experienced sexual trauma and either haven’t broached it with a practitioner yet, or have tried traditional talk therapy (or even EMDR) and it hasn’t helped
you’re open to healing different layers in your system that don’t necessarily feel like they “relate” to your sexuality (let’s talk, they just might be the key!)
you are spiritual, or open to spirituality and don’t know where to start
you’re open to spiritual sexual practices, energy work, neo-Tantra, and breathwork as catalysts for new and fun sexual experiences
Here’s the thing. I’m NOT for you if:
you’re simply looking for better orgasms and don’t want to go deeper than that
you’re looking for me to fix you. My clients are adults who are here to do a piece of their work.
you have no interest in spirituality, nervous system healing (body based healing), energy work, or anything “woo-woo” (that’s a big piece of who I am)
you don’t want a side of giggles with your deep work (I know how and when to keep things serious, but I lighten things with levity, and love bonding with clients over a shared weirdo sense of humor)
Begin to heal what holds you back from experiencing intimacy, and move toward uncovering your authentic expression of sexuality.
What is a healthy sexuality?
Sexual healing opens us up to body/mind healing on profound levels, including spirituality, visibility, confidence, access to joy, and more.
It’s a vibrant sexuality that feels good to you before, during, and after a sexual experience (solo or partnered). A sexuality with boundaries, that says No to what it doesn’t want, and Yes to what it does. So often we don’t really know what we need or desire. In our time together, you’ll move toward your authentic sexual expression.
Your path to nourishing sexual pleasure
In our sessions together, we will get to know each other. We’ll create a dynamic that favors consent, safety, boundaries and compassion. I celebrate your No, I won’t push your Maybe, and Yes will come from a felt-sense in your body.
We might visit old stories that are holding you back from new, reparative experiences. What have you inherited from caregivers, ancestors, friends, religion, partners, and/or society, that you long to let go of? Who are you, in the here and now? How can we tend to pieces of you that are clinging to old stories and wounds?
We’ll create resources that allow you to begin to heal, play and discover who you really are as an erotic being.
Your sexuality and sexual blueprint are unique to you. We’ll take a look at your desires, and over our time together, you’ll feel into which ones are life-affirming, and which ones aren’t in alignment with your highest truth. This will be a process, layer by layer, discovering Truth and stripping away what doesn’t serve.
Depending on your preferences and needs, we’ll use ceremony, a connection to the unseen world, and somatic practices to anchor in this new way of being with your sexuality.
Once we do this deep work and lay a foundation of health, you’ll learn new ways to experience pleasure in your daily life. Embodiment practices like dance and movement, energy work, breathwork, and simple tantric self-pleasure practices will become part of your toolbox.
If you’re partnered, we’ll delve into how to share your findings with your partner—how to show up as the erotic creature you are, communicate your desires gracefully, and get the pleasure and understanding you deserve.
I’m not here to fix you—which is perfect, because you’re not broken. I’m here to share my wisdom on this path, and guide you toward the empowered adult of you who holds great wisdom, great pleasure, and the keys to a vibrant sexuality.
People come to me when they:
(I recommend plenty of pausing while reading the following, as well as feeling your breath and your body. Take breaks if you need.)
feel shame or confusion around their sexual expression or desires
feel hyposexual: you haven’t been able to contact your libido or orgasm in a long time, or ever
experience hypersexuality: have sex with unsafe people or have what feels like unaligned/”too much” sex
only find unsafe situations and people exciting/sexy
have sexual wounding/trauma
feel like they’ve used sex as currency, a bartering tool, or a negotiation
need help navigating an STI or dating with an STI (I have had HPV, and have had HSV-1 genitally for over 15 years)
want to connect sexuality to spirituality, or have sacred sex
have been raised in a religion or society that repressed sexuality
have a hard time talking about sex at all
and so much more.
You can move toward a relationship with your sexuality that is soulful, nourishing and easeful.
Coming into contact with your own sexuality and uncovering what lies underneath the conditioning can be immensely healing.
None of us are broken, regardless of what we’ve been taught, or thought. None of us are beyond repair.
We just need to shine a light on where we've been, so we can move forward with grace and clarity. Understanding and shifting our old patterns and beliefs is key in moving toward our desires, and transforming.
Who am I?
I’m a certified Women’s Sexuality Coach with a focus on female sexuality and empowerment. I have taken a variety of coaching and guiding programs to provide deep healing on somatic, emotional, spiritual, and energetic levels.
I provide a grounded, present, caring container where you can share about your sexual experiences. I have an eventful sexual history that involves working in the sex toy industry, along with plenty of chaotic and exciting exploits (before I delved into my own healing and sacred sexuality in 2013). I’m very familiar with shadow aspects like addiction and shut-down, and have done my work to dismantle sexual shame, trauma, and unhealthy power dynamics in my own sexuality.
These days my sexuality feels nourishing, and can shift with the seasons of my life. I have a life-affirming self-pleasure practice that helps me contact and process my emotions. My sexual relationship with my partner goes at my body’s pace (though that’s not always perfect — I’m a human just like you, always learning and growing). I am vastly interested and excited by energetics and spiritual access through sex and self-pleasure, and I love sharing all that I’ve learned in my own healing journey and studies.
What people are saying …
“As a 35 year old woman who has only recently decided to explore and develop her sexuality in a deeper, more intimate way I couldn't have asked for a better guide than Elena. The minute we connected online I instantly felt relaxed and open to sharing with her my intention for exploring a more sacred sexuality. Her breath work recommendations were super easy to practice and helped me to drop in to my body and feel any constriction. Her expertise is so broad that I was able to speak about sexuality and spirituality interchangeably. I recommend connecting with Elena if you have any inkling of interest in exploring what it means to be a woman beyond what we are taught by our culture and society. It’s a beautiful process and Elena is the perfect guide for this journey.” - MG
“My work with Elena is the most important work I’ve ever done for myself. I went into it hoping to get some insight and to maybe change a few things, but I can not stress enough how life-changing this was for me. I did not realize how my past relationships conditioned me to think that I was unworthy of my own love and pleasure. Elena allowed me to drop into those past feelings with what felt like the warmest arms (even if it was over webcam). I felt that support and that she was really holding space for me.
Working with Elena brought actual change I can see and feel within me. I am forever grateful that I found Elena for this work: she is soft, inviting and I never felt like I was being judged for expressing what was going through my head. She shared some of her own experiences that made me feel like I wasn’t alone with my struggles, and went over and beyond with resources and books for me to further my work. I’ve been coached throughout my whole life and this is the most meaningful work I’ve done so far. I recommend this work with Elena to every woman that has felt disempowered by society’s social norms, and who have the itch inside them for total reclamation of their bodies and feminine power.” - Myriam
FAQ
What’s the cost? How will we work together?
I’ve found through my work that I like deepening with a person, week by week. So I offer what you could call one-off sessions, and I love working with people long-term. Though I am not a traditional therapist, you could compare this more to the therapeutic model.
My hour-long sessions are $160, and they are pay-as-you-go. We can choose to meet weekly or biweekly.
The other option is a package, which includes a recorded practice or meditation between sessions, as well as more WhatsApp access (voice notes between sessions and insights between sessions if that's helpful). It also includes access to one of my courses for up to a year (Jade Egg Magic, Divine Self-Pleasure, or Tantric Couples Massage). The package is 12 sessions, to be used over 3-5 months, and is $2500 (can be paid in installments).
It just depends how much time you want to commit, and if you like extra support/a recorded practice between sessions. A lot of women do the container, then move to one-off sessions. One-off sessions work beautifully too!
Is this program only for women?
Yes, I am a women’s mentor. I work with non-binary people with vulvas too, as well as queer women.
I’d love more details about the program.
During our initial 30-minute feeler call, we’ll discuss everything: where you are now and where you’d like to be, how the program works, the pricing, and the payment options available to you.
I have suffered severe sexual abuse. Is this program for me?
Please reach out and we can discuss it. I have taken trauma resolution trainings, and can hold compassionate space for traumatic sexual events, as well as support you in gently processing trauma. In cases of severe sexual abuse or ongoing developmental trauma, especially if you’ve never worked with it before, I may refer you to a different trauma specialist. If you have worked on these events with a skilled therapist or are working with someone concurrently, working together may be just the extra support you need to move toward more healthy sexuality and experiences.