Turn Your Self-Pleasure into a Self-Healing Practice

Turn Your Self-Pleasure into a Self-Healing Practice

For the most fulfilling self-pleasure, sensation becomes your focus. Not the images on your screen. Not the fantasies in your mind. Not the well-worn pathway to climax.

Oh, how our brains want to follow that same old pathway. it’s the easiest way there. But what if there’s a more pleasurable way?

What is Sexuality Coaching?

What is Sexuality Coaching?

When we aren’t given options, we lose sight of the myriad of possibility around sexual expression. It’s harder to uncover our own unique desires and flavor of sexuality when there are no role models, and when “sexy” looks just one way in the media.

Sexuality coaching allows you to discover your own sexuality, free from the stories that have been given to you from culture, your parents, friends, lovers, etc. It’s a compassionate, held space where you can untangle the web of your sexual experiences and desires, and experience healing and integration.

Is Sexuality Sacred?

Is Sexuality Sacred?

I posit that sex is sacred because Life is sacred. We exist because of sex, and the act of sex couldn't be more natural. If Life is sacred, so is sex. Almost every person has a story of contacting their natural sexuality as a child—and having it shamed or chastised out of them, to live on in dark corners of the mind and body. When we're shamed about sex when we're young, it causes a lifelong undercurrent of self-questioning. We worry that we're sinners, or that there's something wrong with us. In our unconscious, sex gets connected with these false and disparaging thoughts.

Self-Pleasure for Healing & Transformation

Self-Pleasure for Healing & Transformation

Self-pleasure doesn't have to look like mainstream porn. It's one option, but it's not the only option. The masturbation we see in mainstream porn follows the biological male arousal pattern. Meaning: many people with penises get fully aroused (full engorgement) in 30 seconds - 2 minutes. Meanwhile, the bio-female arousal pattern looks different. It takes a full 30-45 minutes for full genital engorgement, lubrication, and therefore arousal.

Why Won't My Body Heal?! (moving from hate to love)

Why Won't My Body Heal?! (moving from hate to love)

Anything you’re trying to change in your life: a body part, a reaction, a state of being, an emotion, a disease—try a new tact, a different angle. Baby it. Ask it what it needs from you, and if it’s in your power, provide that. It might need rest or love. It might simply need to be heard. What it doesn’t need is shame, judgment, or fear.

Breast Massage for Self-Compassion, Health & Pleasure

Breast Massage for Self-Compassion, Health & Pleasure

Breast massage gives you a relationship with your breasts, one that you cultivate from the inside out. This is your time to connect with your heart, with your nipples, and with any sensations or numbness there. This is your time to connect with the energy in your breasts, to give them acceptance and love, and to really make peace with them. Massaging your breasts leads to acceptance and compassion—and fuller, perkier breasts are the cherry on top.

What is a Healthy Sexuality?

What is a Healthy Sexuality?

Above all, a healthy sexuality isn’t boring—it can take you to greater heights of pleasure than you've ever experienced. When your sexuality is aligned in your own Truth, it doesn't come with feeling bad after sex or self-pleasure. It feels pure, unfettered and clean, but not in the way we're used to using those words. You can still be having anal sex, or exploring spanking, and feel pure, unfettered and clean. It's about full consent from you and a partner, and being your full Self in sex.

The "Truth" About Yoni Eggs

The "Truth" About Yoni Eggs

So, here’s what Truth actually is: truth is a felt-sense in our own bodies. Truth is inner authority. For me, truth doesn’t come from an external source, even if that source went to medical school. Truth comes from my own experience. Outsourcing truth to a doctor, to a lover, to a parent, to a friend—that’s where we, historically, as women, lose our power, and fade into the background again, not trusting ourselves, our intuition, or our bodies.