Articles
on empowerment, boundaries, magic and self-growth
The gift of humor in the face of challenge or trauma, is that it’s connective, and can give us some much needed soothing. I never want to abandon my humor, which is a big part of my personality. But I do watch where it wants to overtake the moment. Often compassion and “I see you, I feel you,” is what’s truly needed when humor tries to dismiss bigger feelings.
Cosmic Embodiment will feature tarot readings for the collective, as well as interviews and intuitive musings. We'll explore various topics like relationships, boundaries, nervous system regulation, astrology, the Divine, spirituality, and personal evolution. Tune in for grounded guidance and coming back to center in chaotic times.
A sex coach may or may not work with couples. Most often, I work with individuals on anything related to sex—from learning skills to enhance self-pleasure, to sexual empowerment and liberation, to healing from sexual wounding and trauma. A sex coach might specialize in something, like sex addiction, boundary repair, or teaching tools for full-body orgasms.
I posit that sex is sacred because Life is sacred. We exist because of sex, and the act of sex couldn't be more natural. If Life is sacred, so is sex. Almost every person has a story of contacting their natural sexuality as a child—and having it shamed or chastised out of them, to live on in dark corners of the mind and body. When we're shamed about sex when we're young, it causes a lifelong undercurrent of self-questioning. We worry that we're sinners, or that there's something wrong with us. In our unconscious, sex gets connected with these false and disparaging thoughts.
It wasn’t until I did work around my childhood wounding and patterning that I began having aha moments. I realized I was the common denominator of all these relationships, and if they were all going the same way, it pointed to a certain someone fucking up: me.
Anything you’re trying to change in your life: a body part, a reaction, a state of being, an emotion, a disease—try a new tact, a different angle. Baby it. Ask it what it needs from you, and if it’s in your power, provide that. It might need rest or love. It might simply need to be heard. What it doesn’t need is shame, judgment, or fear.
Breast massage gives you a relationship with your breasts, one that you cultivate from the inside out. This is your time to connect with your heart, with your nipples, and with any sensations or numbness there. This is your time to connect with the energy in your breasts, to give them acceptance and love, and to really make peace with them. Massaging your breasts leads to acceptance and compassion—and fuller, perkier breasts are the cherry on top.
The daddy thing shows up like this: when I'm really turned on by a man fully in his masculine (like when he's fixing something, taking care of me, or working on something he's passionate about), I think the word "daddy," sometimes over and over, and get fully weak in the knees (who knew that was a thing that literally happened?). This happens during sex too, of course, or we wouldn't be here.
Originally published December 2017.
Vulva mapping, or vaginal mapping, is an opportunity to have your genitals touched with total compassion, and with no agenda. It's a space where you can explore the history of your pelvis (from gynecological exams, to sex, to birth), and to share the stories that are being held there. It's a space of incredible slowness, rich with opportunity to negotiate consent, and practice your own boundaries. It's a space where your yoni can be honored, normalized, and freed from old stories, pain, and shame.
